“The heart was made to be broken.” -Oscar Wilde
I’ve dealt with my share of heartbreak, that’s for sure. Everyone has, one way or another. And as someone that has been on the receiving end, I can tell you one thing with complete certainty.
A heart doesn’t just break. It shatters.
And when it does, it feels as if the world is caving in on you, everything seems to fall apart and goes dark. No light at the end of the tunnel. You feel as if your heart shattered into so many fractions, that you’re bound to leave a piece or two behind.
But, in life, you are not defined by the punches that knock you down. You are defined by how you get back up and take some more…
Time heals all
I know. The biggest cliché out there. But it’s true. Time does heal all. And when you are at your lowest point, trying to pick up and mend the pieces, it’s very important to remember this. With time, the pain fades away and the memories move on. Time, like life, waits for no one. Once you realize and accept this simple notion, you can begin to move forward and release the feeling of being left behind. Be patient. Accept the pain and realize that it is only temporary.
The best is yet to come
Another important step to overcoming heartbreak is to accept the fact that what happened probably was for the best. If someone you love can break your heart and rock you to the core, it probably wasn’t meant to be. As hard as it may be to accept. Mark Twain once said, “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Spot on. And don’t worry. The day will come when you’ve found your priority and the feeling will be mutual. It doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down, it only matters how many times you get up. And with love, it doesn’t matter who your first is, only your last. Remember, the best is yet to come.
The Heart is a bone
Ok. So maybe this isn’t true from an anatomical point of view. But metaphorically speaking, this couldn’t be more accurate. When a bone breaks, it heals and becomes stronger. The same can be said with the heart. As time passes and you realize that the best is ahead of you, your heart can begin to heal. And like a bone, mending the shattered pieces back together will actually make you stronger. The scars left behind aren’t vulnerable spots, they are armor, making your heart stronger than ever before.
So, remember that a heartbreak won’t kill you and that there are ways to deal with the pain and pick up the pieces. And to all you heartbreakers out there – be kind, be gentle, be honest and be direct. Because a heart doesn’t just break, it shatters…