A friend of mine has a tattoo on his leg. Not surprising, as tattoos have been trending for a while now. However, my friend’s tattoo isn’t big or colorful, a special design or meaningful sentence. It’s a small tattoo of a turtle. Turtles are slow, boring and if we’re being honest, they’re not the prettiest of animals. So why on earth did he tattoo a turtle on his leg?
“Turtles carry their home around with them wherever they go. No matter where they are, they always feel at home”, he said.
And that’s when it hit me. Home is a feeling, not a place. Your house, or apartment, is your physical place. But your home is your inner-sanctuary; the place where you feel safest and most comfortable.
Recently, I moved into a new apartment. After the conversation with my tattooed friend (yes, he’s real, the tattoo is real and the conversation was real), I realized that I didn’t have a home. I had an apartment, with a kitchen a bathroom and a bedroom, but this was no home of mine. Something needed to change. ASAP.
So instead of decorating my apartment with new furniture, trendy designs and huge flat-screens, I brought my old couch, my outdated posters and even my cheesy coffee mugs. This was a good start, but not enough. As I started to feel a bit more comfortable in my new surroundings, I began to feel at home. I started inviting friends over for sports games and beers, inviting my parents for lunch (and my mom always cleans a bit when she comes over;) and even hosted dinner parties.
My apartment adopted my character, my room became a part of me.
And then it happened.
While on a week-long vacation abroad, it finally happened. Towards the end of the week I started to miss my home. My home, not my apartment. For the first time, after 3 months of living in an apartment, I called it home.
Home is a feeling, not a place. And it’s up to you to make your house a home. Home is a feeling of comfort, security, joy and serenity. I’m lucky enough to have a home…are you?